Here we have the lodging trap. “This is a very different kind of trap,” says Segar, as he actually means well. Let us set the scene: You’re at a friend’s party, and again, you notice that same rich chocolate cake. You’re not tempted to take a slice, and there’s no sense of rebellion, but then your friend walks up to you with said pie and offers you a slice (and some pizza too).
Instead of sticking to your plan, “you want to meet his needs to take care of you, so just take it and say thank you,” explains Segar. “You eat everything and feel terrible because you’re trying to meet their needs instead of your own.” You may mean well, but try to remember that your food choices are yours, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to indulge yourself to show your appreciation or fit in; a True friend will respect your choices, anyway.
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