According to the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), adverse childhood experiences, or ACEs, are potentially traumatic events that occur in childhood (0-17 years).
This could include: experiencing violence, abuse, or neglect, witnessing violence in the home or community, or a family member attempting or dying by suicide.
From physical, verbal, sexual to emotional abuse, many factors can contribute to a child’s mental and emotional instability.
However, what is important to keep in mind is that childhood trauma is not just a result of abuse. Rather, it may be due to many other things that we tend to take for granted or overlook, for example being denied emotional support.
Children are vulnerable, they are innocent and, unlike adults, they do not have the ability to express their needs and desires. They have their own battles to fight and are constantly looking for ways to find support and feel safe. If parents don’t provide them with comfort and security, it can take a toll on their mental well-being and if it continues, it can become traumatic for them.
Having to hide their true self could also be traumatic for a child.
From a young age, children are introduced to a world of do’s and don’ts. They are required to behave according to socially constructed roles and must adhere to what is expected of them. In trying to live up to people’s expectations, children often try to hide their true selves, dress up as something they are not, and pretend to be someone to be loved and appreciated.
Along with this double life that they live, they have to bear the burden of constantly proving themselves, of competing, even if it is not something they want.
All these things can affect the child’s mind. It can be traumatic for them and can shape her personality as adults.
How Parents Can Prevent Childhood Trauma
The CDC states that adverse childhood experiences and trauma are preventable.
“We must understand and address the factors that put people at risk or protect them from violence,” recommends the US health agency.
“Creating and maintaining safe, stable and nurturing relationships and environments for all children and families can prevent ACEs and help all children reach their full potential,” the experts add.
In general, parents need to support their children, encourage communication, and most importantly, create a safe space for their children to grow up.
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