Exercise it is a very personal activity. Some do it to reach or maintain measurable fitness goals; others do it to experience the mental and emotional benefits of regular movement. There’s no right or wrong way to incorporate exercise into your life, and that’s precisely why this Reddit user is so upset with her boyfriend that she’s been pressuring her to pursue their careers Y share the data with the.
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User @runningdali made a pit stop at the /AmITheAsshole Subreddit to get information about a complicated situation with her boyfriend. Both she and her boyfriend are avid runners, although they usually run alone. He “loves to follow her races” and pays close attention to her speed and training regimen, while she simply enjoys the meditative quality of the sport.
“I’ll just go out there and run at whatever speed feels good that day, for however long it feels good that day. I’ll go anywhere that looks cool or quaint,” she explained. “It really varies depending on my mood and energy level, but I usually run between 30 and 60 minutes, varying my speed a lot.”
Since @runningdali takes such a laid back approach to running, she and her boyfriend assumed he would be faster, until she bested him in a recent charity half marathon. “And I was genuinely surprised, because I only use running to help with anxiety,” she recalled. “I don’t care how the race goes; it’s nice to be outside and feel connected to my body. But my boyfriend really wanted to know how I did it. He thought that he must have been doing something to train.”
Since then, her boyfriend has been pressuring her to borrow her Apple Watch and check her speed “every time” she goes for a run. She has become a point of contention, he explained, “I really don’t want to do that. [because] I feel like tracking and analyzing things would spoil my fun. But literally every time he’s gotten mad at me, even saying things (in a bit of a joking way, but still) that he talked to his fellow racers and ‘untracked runs don’t count’ and ‘it’s basically sacrilege ‘, and on a more serious note, ‘Don’t you want to know your progress?’”
ugh. It goes without saying, but every exercise is valid regardless of whether you track it. And also, @runningdali and her boyfriend run a few half marathons every year, so she does it Have a reliable method to measure your progress. She said that she has tried to give her boyfriend some informal advice, but he keeps pushing and urging her to follow her exercise.
“I feel like you probably feel a little insecure [that] I ran better in that race and I’m trying to make sense of it,” she admitted, “so maybe I’m being too stubborn not to try. AITA for not following my races, when my runner boyfriend wants to see?
In general, AITA Redditors were Team @runningdali.
“NTA not at all,” one commenter wrote. “Your boyfriend is insecure and he envies you, the fact that you had an easier time in the race probably hurt his fragile ego. ‘Untracked runs don’t count’ is complete bullshit. You don’t have to keep track of your runs; stick with it because you really don’t want to spoil the fun of running.”
“Tell him to stop turning his healthy coping mechanism into another source of stress,” another user added. “He’s being absurd.”
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