Living in a culture dominated by masculine energy, we are accustomed to action being more important than reflection; to be more necessary than to be; Money and material success are far more valuable than maintaining strong, healthy relationships. Does the importance of logic and willpower over instinct and nurture cause us unnecessary pain? Is it time to re-evaluate how we approach our problems, especially our nationwide struggle with weight? Will embracing our feminine strengths lead to more harmonious results?
In any other time and place, embracing our feminine power would have come naturally. People living in cultures that honor the Divine Feminine have much less of a challenge to embrace the wisdom that our feminine nature provides. But we live in a culture that teaches us to rely almost exclusively on our masculine nature. Your masculine nature tells you to be logical, rational, and action-oriented. He likes to make things happen and he likes to be in control. He will suppress, deny or even dismiss your feminine nature in order to remain the captain of your ship. This is true; Your masculine side is sometimes a bully. He likes to see things in black and white. He often doesn’t pay attention to the subtleties and nuances and can easily disregard the needs of your feminine side.
On the other hand, your feminine power is quietly strong. She will never fight. She doesn’t feel the need to force you to do anything. She is the keeper of your dreams and she believes in signs and symbols. She speaks the language of emotion and uses creativity to express her inner wisdom. She is not afraid to make decisions based on her intuition because she knows that she is connected to the source of all life. When you let your masculine side dominate your feminine nature, you dismiss your dreams as nonsense. If you are offended, you consider yourself too sensitive and insist that you do not have valid reasons for doing so. You believe that you need to change in order to be happy. You yourself will be better. You diet, exercise, budget, shop and force yourself to become a better, sexier, wealthier, stronger, slimmer, younger looking version of yourself. You try your best to stay focused, stay on track, and refuse anything that isn’t part of your masculine self’s idea of success. In the end, you spend your energy trying to control everything because you believe that eventually you will become better.
Letting go of your feminine power can prove to be far more beneficial. This is not to suggest that you should devalue your masculine side. Emphasizing one side over the other is not the answer, but in order to achieve balance, you must give your masculine nature a new role. You should use it to support the direction of your feminine power rather than be in control. Let him be the captain. He will become the wind that fills his sails. She can’t go anywhere without him. But without that, your ship goes round and round and never reaches its destination.
Your masculine nature likes to stay on the surface of things. Only your feminine nature knows how to dig deep and move inward. Without that, you’ll forever be caught in one happiness trap after another, painstakingly trying to accomplish goal after goal in the hope that the changes you’re making will finally lead to happiness. The gentle wisdom of your feminine power steers your ship in another direction – inward toward the source of authentic happiness. From there, your masculine nature can take over and do what needs to be done in this world. But instead of your actions being rooted in emptiness, lack, and a desire to separate, everything you do is motivated by understanding, love, and compassion.
How your masculine and feminine nature plays out in your struggle with weight shows how different each side is. Being action-oriented and concerned only with results, when your masculine side is in control, the answer to your weight struggle is single-minded. He is logical and rational. You are overweight because you eat too much and don’t exercise. consume less. and move. Easy. stop it now. It doesn’t matter why you overeat or aren’t motivated to exercise. It only matters that you yourself will be better.
Your feminine side digs a little deeper and wonders what is the real cause of this problem? When you allow Him to show you the way, the journey becomes as important as the destination. The wise woman within always tells you to question your motivation. Is your desire to change rooted in self-loathing? Do you want to change because you are flawed and can’t possibly be right the way you are now? Is this helpful? She asks you to fulfill her need to fix the ‘problem’. Instead, she encourages you to approach your struggle with kindness and use it as an opportunity to get to know yourself better. Her soft, gentle approach lets you know that she loves you just the way you are and that nothing you do will ever make you better because you are perfect in her eyes. you are flawless. Then she reminds you that when you see what she sees, the change you seek will come easily. They naturally will. You don’t need to force yourself to lose weight. You don’t want this to happen. When you love yourself deeply and completely, naturally your actions will be rooted in a desire to take care of yourself. This is the perfect time for your masculine energy to step back into the picture. When your feminine power takes the lead, it can work in harmony with it. That will become the force that will fuel your actions and the work that needs to be done will be based on love, compassion and wisdom.
Being an unconditionally loving, ever-understanding source of wisdom, your feminine self will never force your masculine self to step aside. She will never abuse her power. This is not his way. She is still silent and prefers to be just. She waits patiently for you to relinquish control. She waits until you are ready to trust her. You can dismiss her, suppress her and try to control her and still she will love you and wait until you are ready to do things with her. Because of that the physical changes you make will last for a long time. No longer can you hide your problems with temporary band aids. She will help to change the cause of the disharmony. Without that, you may be leaner, but you naturally won’t be different in any other way and the reason for your struggle with weight will still be there. It will not disappear easily. It will continue to show up in your life one way or another and you will eventually have to deal with it, even if your size 6 jeans fit in the end.
In order not only to lose weight but also to cure the root cause of the problem, your feminine power must be the captain of your ship and your masculine nature must learn to follow its lead. His power to act needs to come from the right place. If it were up to him, he would act regardless of why he is doing what he is doing. Material results were all he cared about. Only your wise female nature knows that the physical results driven by self-love are very different from the physical results achieved by self-hatred.
Who’s the captain of your ship? Who has been at the top and are you moving in the direction you ultimately want to go?
Source by Dana Da Ponte
